Today is my parent's wedding anniversary. They have been married for 53 years. Three years ago we had a big celebration with lot's of family and friends. My brother's favorite part was when he finally got to leave and start drinking beer and grilling. The after party was relaxing and fun, it was nice to just hang out with everyone.
Something my Mother taught me when I was a kid, a life lesson she probably didn't think twice about saying to me or with the intention of it being a lesson. My parents went through a rough patch, which all relationships do. At one point I was tired of them constantly fighting and said to my Mom how maybe she should just get a divorce. She made it clear that divorce was not an option. That all relationships go through difficult times, and she loved my Dad and they would work through it. She mentioned how you don't just up and walk away when things get tough, you work through it.
This is something I think is interesting that Phillip said to me, "You get up, and take it one day at a time" when we were discussing dealing with difficulties in a relationship.
My Mom really instilled in me something I have heard from others who have been successful at marriage. "You don't give up just because it gets hard, when you marry for the right reasons you work through it. The difference between a married couple and a divorced couple is, each have the same amount of fights, the married couple made a commitment and are willing to work through it".
I hope if/when the day comes I am blessed with someone who I will marry, he will have the same values. Be the man who will work through conflict, not just tuck tail and run from it.
No comments:
Post a Comment