LaCresha's Lens Focuses On...page 224...Must Hate Dogs - Chapter 14

Trust

Talking with Chad the other night, the one who actually exists not the fake ass one who lies.  We get discussing expectations that we would have in a relationship.  He asked if I had more guy friends that girl friends or an even mix.  I thought about it and finally said I felt I had an even mix.  I commented how from time to time I would go to lunch or go hiking with one of my guy friends.  Immediately he voiced how he would have a problem with that because he would not want who he is dating to put herself in such a position.  I gave him the chance to explain and he stated how he doesn't do it out of jealousy, but would never go out to eat or off alone with a female friend.  He said how he thinks it does not look right and things could possibly happen to lead to cheating or an affair.
Where I do see what he is saying, and he did clearly state he would show the same respect that he would not do that to someone.  I balk, because I have male friends who are good people and there is no romantic interest what so ever.  I enjoy spending time with these individuals and I would feel uncomfortable having to say, "no, I can't go to lunch with you because my boyfriend can't join us and doesn't trust me enough to go off with you because your penis might accidentally fall into my vajayjay". I would be really sad if I was not allowed to see my buddy Chuck and go hiking with him because my boyfriend had a problem with it.  I would definitely experience a deep emotion if I had to turn down a cave trip because the boyfriend couldn't go and didn't approve.
I have had really great conversations with this man and I think he is funny, smart and love that he is open to talk about anything.  He doesn't want to ever get married, so part of me is concerned with down the road what if he up and decides to end the relationship.  Then I will have invested my time and energy into him and have to watch it all fall apart without a definitive commitment.  These are a couple of concerns I have with this particular individual.    For someone I am connecting so well with, I'm a little concerned we may not be on the same path, goals or understanding level.  I'm being open and going into our date this Friday with an open mind and will let things unfold as they may.