How often do you look in the mirror and wish you looked like someone else? Well...guess what, that someone else is probably wishing the same thing. If they are not, it is because they have found an inner peace within and accepted themselves for who they are as a person.
Really. I'm not kidding.
When I was a child I had wished I looked like my neighbor. They were Italian and had that gorgeous caramel colored skin and her face was so pretty AND she was thin! I remember saying something to my Mom about it and she basically said "because for what you wish for" I must have repeated this desire because she calmly explained to me not to wish to be someone else. She further explained that I shouldn't want to look like her, but accept me for me. Well, this was not advice I wanted to hear because I saw what I looked like in the mirror and I was ugly! My Mom knew about the abuse which was going on in the household a mile or so away from us. She didn't want to tell me about it, but she made it clear that just because one is skinny and pretty does not mean they have a great life. She told me how I didn't know what was going on behind closed doors and I should be glad I was not her. Years later I found out there was abuse in the household and she was a victim of it. It was then I realized (once again) my Mother was right. If I wanted to wish I looked like her, then along with that came being her and her life, which was not all peaches and cream.
As you wish to be someone else, or wish to look like someone else, take a step back. At some level be reasonable with yourself that that other persons life may not be all it is cracked up to be. Just because someone carries themselves in a manner which seems like they are happy or joyful does not mean that at all.
One of the most joyful people I know I discovered was a very unhappy person. I truly believed she had love and light in her home, and while at some level that is true, she spends her nights drinking until she is drunk. While she is not a functioning alcoholic, she is an alcoholic because she is so unhappy in life.
Take pride in who you are, what you have, what you have become and that beautiful face that is staring back at you. Don't deny yourself some peace and happiness because the voices in your head are beating you down. Beat them back! Don't stand for it! Tell them to stop and do yourself a favor and CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK!
Pink words it wonderfully in her song, "Fucking Perfect"
"You're so mean...when you talk...about yourself...you are wrong...change the voices...in your head...make them like you...instead"
There is so much truth to those lyrics. Let the demons out and fill yourself with some reward and kindness. Life is difficult enough, we don't need those evil thoughts to control us.
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