Have you ever found yourself feeling so overwhelmed you couldn't see straight? I am staring down the barrel of that gun right now. I am beyond stressed, overwhelmed and tired of dealing with those who will not speak to me kindly.
Not too long ago I had a woman call me to badger and yell at me about my charity event. I finally stopped and yelled back explaining to her she did not need to speak to me in that tone and needed to back off. I was done being her punching bag. I made it clear she would be nice to me going forward.
At the end of the conversation she apologized for her behavior. It was at that point and time I knew I had to watch myself around her to make sure she did not treat me like that again.
I try to be quiet in nature, I know I have a loud laugh and I can speak louder than I mean to at times. However, I try to sit back, listen and observe and keep my comments to myself unless I know you well. However, if one pushes me I will come out fighting and watch the hell out when I do. When I am overwhelmed and stressed that side of me will come out a little quicker. If you catch me in the right mood, I will apologize sooner than later, but I know my manners and will realize when an apology is necessary.
Yet, when we get that overwhelmed and stressed what can one do? Stop and take a minute. Seem impossible, yes, it does, however, this is YOUR life! The biggest cause to illness is stress. It is not fair to you to keep pushing. Want help in the kitchen? Ask for it, then accept how the other person does it without criticizing or doing it yourself. We don't have to do everything and just because something is not done exactly how we want it done, does not mean it is done wrong. Let others have ownership within the family and have them help vacuum, do laundry, dishes, dust.
Maybe you have taken on too much with church, volunteer organizations? One thing I learned, once you get into the groove with those groups they do not like it when you start telling them no. However, once you set that boundary it will be a whole new world for you. Stand by your decision and accept that it IS okay for you to say no!
Take a moment to look at all you have piled onto your plate? You know what happens when I try to eat when I am really hungry? My eyes get bigger than my stomach and I cannot finish everything. The same thing happens with our goals and ambition, sometimes it gets to be too much for us. That is when we step back and analyze what is stressing us out, what is worth hanging onto and what we need to let go. I am in that process right now and honestly what made me sad to let go a few months ago, I am excited to let go today.
Find those things which are bringing stress to your life, and re-evaluate. Take the time for you - trust me - you DO deserve it!
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