LaCresha's Lens Focuses On...page 203...Not Surprised

http://www.experienceproject.com/groups/Am-Dating-A-Truck-Driver/137168

Well...I came across this website yesterday morning.  I don't know if things would have been different for me or not if I had found this sooner.  Yet, one article in particular was enlightening which I am going to share with you today.
I like how she says, ..."so when you feel in your heart something is wrong, if you feel in your heart he is cheating or lying, or hiding something, he probably is. if he seems to get defensive when you ask one simple question, there is something usually going on he doesn't want you to know about,"...

Good morning everyone...let me share my stories of dating truck drivers and see what you think. I met a wonderful man online from a nearby city, we chatted for 3 months, talked on the phone, and eventually met in person. We hit things off great! He decided to move to my area. Jobs were scarce, he had a CDL and chose to start driving truck. First job he held he was home every day, short run company. He did not like this. So on to the next job, OTR...he would be gone for 5-12 days then home for 2 or 3. At first this went ok, as I had children to tend to and keep me busy, as well as a full time job. About 3 months after moving in with us, I noticed how women were calling him constantly. Come to find out, one was a past girlfriend, who would call/text SEVERAL times a day. He did not ever answer the phone when he was home with me, He would hit ignore. He would not get online to check email or messages while at home with me. This became very discouraging to me, and of course the first thing you want to think of is...Is he cheating on me?? I know this man loved me, he moved closer to me, he then moved in with me and my children. He would call me several times a day, we would chat online when he would be stuck somewhere waiting to load or unload. But what else did he do and with who? He then started taking runs closer to the city where his ex gf lived, I became irate! not only was she texting and calling him ALL the time, but she would leave comments on her profiles saying how great it was to see her man, coincidence? I started checking his phone (as i paid the cell bill and it was in my name) not only was she calling and texting him, but she would end with, I still love you, I want you back, I can't wait to see you again when you come this way! I then also found out he was calling her. they would talk for HOURS! usually during the time I was working or asleep. This devastated me. I ended the realtionship the next time he came home, it was for the best, Not only was myself involved with this relationship, but so were my children, and they did not need a role model like that in their life. Yes I have had past relationships, yes I have male friends, but we do not call each other or text, we do not chat online. Well...a couple months went by, and I was still mad at the fact that he did this to me, but I still longed for him, I still loved him. Out of the blue he called me one day, saying he was coming thru where I lived (I had moved) . The first thing I said was, "and your point would be?" He wanted to meet and catch up on things, I said, "I am not going to get involved or be that person who ruins a relationship for you" he said he wasn't dating anyone, he was just living and breathing work. So since my heart was pounding, and butterflies were flying, I agreed to meet at the local truck stop for coffee. We sat and enjoyed each others company and conversation. He then brought up our relationship, and the things that were good and bad. When I described how I felt, something must have hit him in the face, because he called this past ex, he told her in front of me on the phone he could no longer accept her phone calls, she needed to move on, he had messed up a chance to be with someone once, and was not about to do it again, he no longer loved her, and she had pushed their friendship way too far. He told her not to call or text anymore, and he blocked her number, After him somehow "proving" his love for me we got back together. This lasted a whole 2 months. The phone calls never stopped, the texting never stopped. I cannot beleve I fell for this AGAIN. so wth that, things ended on a very bad note this time. I told him to NEVER contact me again, to lose my number, (which I ended up changing anyways, as he called and harrassed me) I turned off his phone AGAIN. (the one I had paid for ) and told him to stay away from me and my kids. He would send me emails, he would leave me messages at work, he wouldn't accept the fact that he did wrong, he was at fault, somehow he wanted to be the innocent party here, and I would not stand for it. Several years have now gone by and do I still hear from him? On occasion when crap hits the fan for him, he still wants to blame a part of me for the way his life has turned out. He lost his CDL, he lost his job driving, no fault of mine. I was old news when all that happened. Where is he now? I really don't care. I have moved on, and so has he. so when you feel in your heart something is wrong, if you feel in your heart he is cheating or lying, or hiding something, he probably is. if he seems to get defensive when you ask one simple question, there is something usually going on he doesn't want you to know about, and god forbid, if its ok for him to talk to other women, but NOT ok for you to talk to male friends or other males for example, then recheck your relationship. From my experience to yours, may you find happiness and find love, and find yourself in a GREAT relationship. not all of them are bad, and not all truck drivers are bad, there are alot of misconceptions of truck drivers and by far there are some good ones out there! hope this helps