LaCresha's Lens...Focuses on "Coping with Loss"

LaCresha’s Lens
Focuses on Coping with Loss

Often we find ourselves in a situation which was not expected.  Maybe your spouse decided to leave you while you were on vacation.  You come home to an empty house in which once had what is now “your old life”.  You get called into your bosses office to walk out unemployed.  Life can turn around on you and the result can leave you on the verge of a breakdown, deep anxiety or even homeless.

How does one go forward when life turns the tables on you?  When the bottom of the barrel has fallen out and you are left hanging?  It isn’t easy to hear your friends and family tell you, “It will be ok” when the last thing you can even comprehend is how life will ever be okay again.  
Don’t go at your situation alone.   We were designed to be with others, especially in the time of need.  Are you active with your church?  If not, find out the schedule of events to your church.  Every church has a line up of events and activities and get involved.  Counseling can also be a great way to sort through your emotions.  Many people are not bold or confident enough to seek counseling.  This unfortunately leaves one in a state of confusion and loss when it comes to dealing with an extremely stressful situation in life.  Often while involved with a relationship whether it is a long term romantic relationship or a marriage, we grow apart from our friends.  Life past college creates situations which it is more challenging to meet new people and make friends.  Yet, this is a time to discover a hobby you have wanted to explore, or join a club to a hobby you currently enjoy.  Activities are a great way to get your mind off the stressor in your life.  It also gives you an outlet to create friendships. 
Developing friendships allows you to create a support group.  Find a way to go out for coffee, lunch, or a movie, maybe suggest trying something new that you and your new friends have not done before?  There are endless activities which are free or low cost that will get you out of the house and off the couch.

Let those around you offer some advice to your situation.  Bear in mind, you don’t have to take all the advice which has been offered.  People are often more willing to listen and help out than you may realize. 
Regardless what you may be going through, keep in mind it takes time.  Time is a healer, although often we may find we would like things to move along a little quicker than what you would prefer.  Take the time to let your heart heal before jumping into something new.  Utilize the time to find the solution which is right for you.  Don’t rush the process as painful as it may be for you.  It is during this time of healing we can be renewed and gain a life experience in which shapes us.  Take this time of pain or struggle to discover who you are, what you are made of inside.  Free yourself of bitterness and anger.  Find a way to learn how to forgive those who have done you wrong or hurt you. 
Ultimately, know after some time has gone by you will heal and be able to have your predicament and situation behind you.  Through this process once it is all over, you will hopefully created new relationships with friends, made some self discovery and moved forward from the hurt.  With those steps you can be a more whole person for the next chapter in your life.

Time is a healer - Sun dial - photo by: LaCresha Kolba